What's a question you are looking for an answer to?

[petra]

Those of us who are relatively new to the staying-inside gig may well have some questions for the members of the community who have been doing it longer. Let's call this post a safe space to ask questions of each other.

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[mesotablar]

Touch starvation is a really common problem for heaps of people but you do get used to it. Aromantic and Asexual forums talk about it but don't seem to have real solutions because most are used to not touching others. I have one person I hug frequently and that feels perfectly fine for me but if we weren't isolating together I would probably be fine going back to no touch because I did get used to being touch starved (like riding a bicycle).

I do have 5 pillows in bed so I am literally surrounded by soft 'bodies' when I sleep.

I think nursing homes have introduced several measure to reduce touch starvation for residents. I can't remember them all but one was definitely dancing. To touch in an intimate non-sexual way that is out of the ordinary routine of things can be more satisfying than frequent informal touches.

[petra]

Thank you for these suggestions. I've been compensating by spending a lot of time cuddling my cat, but the suggestion about sleeping with a zillion pillows reminded me that I have a weighted blanket I can pull out and try.

[mesotablar]

I'd love to know how the blanket works out! I was curious about weighted blankets but was too scared they would restrict my sleep movements and give me leg cramps or something.

[petra]

I haven't tried it while sleeping for those reasons, but I'm going to haul it out so I can sit under it tomorrow. I'll try to remember to report back.